"Butt reaming asshole" is how Keeanu put it in Parenthood.
The story of Khamari really hit me. I wasn't going to post about it, particularly after posting a light hearted piece on my movie choices, but I needed to vent.
If you're unfamiliar with the story, go here.
I can't imagine the terror this little boy went through his last few hours of life. When a child should be happy, goofing, laughing . . . innocent, he was being beaten. Beat up for what the, I hesitate to use the word father . . . shithead said was because he "made a real mess." Apparently he threw some toys around and knocked over a few chairs.
Well, let's just beat the tar out him, huh? A 3 year old! That should teach him.
After his beating, he was dragged to the bath. A loving gesture, I guess. After which, he was grabbed, flung around, and had his head smashed in to the wall.
Lights out.
Three years old . . . and done.
Shithead put him in bed. I guess going limp after having your head smashed in to the wall wasn't cause for concern.
It gets worse.
The female shithead shakes her baby so violently, because she's crying, she dies. Two months old. Also done.
Two kids. Just unlucky enough to be born to a pair of shitheads. Butt reaming assholes.
I'm against capitol punishment. But, I would make an exception for these two.
Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts
Friday, April 03, 2009
Monday, August 04, 2008
What about teaching?
Jay Weber had an interesting discussion on his show this morning on the paid sick leave proposal. His point, due to an editorial he read, was that it was not business's fault people have kids and it's not business's responsibility to help take care of those kids. It's a tough issue. I agree for the most part. But, what does one do when their child is sick and needs to be taken care of? I've often said the responsibility of children ultimately falls on none other than the parents. I still do. While I understand some people have put themselves in to a position of needing both parents to work, I don't think that passes the responsibility of your child's care on to someone else. Particularly government mandates.
Anyway, I have this same problem with schools. The schools seem to want to do everything for your child except teach them. Today's paper has a good indication of that.
The first two paragraphs say it all:
Two things. One, this will mean more money. More "experts" to figure this out, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Two, aren't the behavior issues with children, even as they apply to school, the parent's responsibilities? Why does MPS feel as though they must take on parental responsibilities? They want to feed them, psycho-analyze them, provide baby sitting . . . when are parents supposed to act like parents?
Why don't the schools just TEACH?
Personally, I'm sick of parents getting out of their responsibilities thanks to government. It's bad enough we have dysfunctional families, broken families, and abusive families. We need to emphasize more the role of parents in a child's life, not take it away. All of these "well intentioned" program do nothing more than make parents lazy. Rather than making them see how it is they are at fault, it allows them to blame everyone else for their child's behavior. That, and there's an expectation of provision. Be it food, day care, or dealing with behavior problems.
People need to understand that being a parent means you have responsibilities, and that those responsibilities are yours alone. It's not up to someone else to fix them.
Also, the schools need to stop trying to be parents. Just teach.
Anyway, I have this same problem with schools. The schools seem to want to do everything for your child except teach them. Today's paper has a good indication of that.
Suspend fewer, MPS urged
Report rips discipline tactics; change promised
The first two paragraphs say it all:
A team of national experts has urged a major overhaul in the way Milwaukee Public Schools handles behavior issues in schools, saying MPS does not do enough to deal with problems short of suspending students and may have the highest suspension rate of any urban school system in America.
MPS
By The Numbers
26.4%
MPS students suspended at least once, many of them multiple times, during the 2007-'08 school year.
86,675
Total number of suspensions during the same school year, just short of the number of students in the district.
"District staff members need to mobilize to meet this challenge" of dealing with behavior issues in ways that don't involve suspensions but are more effective in improving both a student's behavior and academic work, the team said in a report to MPS officials.
Two things. One, this will mean more money. More "experts" to figure this out, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Two, aren't the behavior issues with children, even as they apply to school, the parent's responsibilities? Why does MPS feel as though they must take on parental responsibilities? They want to feed them, psycho-analyze them, provide baby sitting . . . when are parents supposed to act like parents?
Why don't the schools just TEACH?
Personally, I'm sick of parents getting out of their responsibilities thanks to government. It's bad enough we have dysfunctional families, broken families, and abusive families. We need to emphasize more the role of parents in a child's life, not take it away. All of these "well intentioned" program do nothing more than make parents lazy. Rather than making them see how it is they are at fault, it allows them to blame everyone else for their child's behavior. That, and there's an expectation of provision. Be it food, day care, or dealing with behavior problems.
People need to understand that being a parent means you have responsibilities, and that those responsibilities are yours alone. It's not up to someone else to fix them.
Also, the schools need to stop trying to be parents. Just teach.
Monday, March 31, 2008
No, my kid is smart!
So, right on the heels of my last post about child stars I see this headline:
The article is here.
I know of a few controlling parents. It ain't pretty.While this story may be the extreme exception, many controlling parents can look forward to rebellion manifested in some fashion.
Child Genius at Oxford Becomes Prostitute
The article is here.
I know of a few controlling parents. It ain't pretty.While this story may be the extreme exception, many controlling parents can look forward to rebellion manifested in some fashion.
Thursday, February 07, 2008
Good advice for parents
I don't always agree with the views of Psychology Today but they have a couple of small articles with advice for parents. Here's the first one on over-parenting:
We all want the best for our children, but sometimes it's better to give them a little space. Here's how to prevent yourself from overparenting.
• Never invest more in an outcome than your child does.
• Allow children of all ages time for free play. It's a natural way to learn regulation, social skills and cognitive skills.
• Be reasonable about what is dangerous and what is not.
Some risk-taking is healthy.
• Don't overreact to every bad grade or negative encounter your child has. Sometimes discomfort is the appropriate
response to a situation—and a stimulus to self-improvement.
• Don't be too willing to slap a disease label on your child at the first sign of a problem; instead, spend some time
helping your child learn how to deal with the problem.
• Peers are important, but young people also need to spend time socializing with adults in order to know how to be adults.
• Modify your expectations about child-raising in light of your child's temperament; the same actions don't work
with everyone.
• Recognize that there are many paths to success. Allow your children latitude—even to take a year off before starting college.
• Don't manipulate the academic system on behalf of your child; it makes kids guilty and doubtful of their own ability.
• Remember that the goal of child-rearing is to raise an independent adult. Encourage your children to think for themselves,
to disagree (respectfully) with authority, even to incur the critical gaze of their peers.
I only have a small issue with the very first bullet. As a parent I think I recognize when I need to put in extra time for the sake of my daughter and for the future. But, I do it transparently. The worst situation would be to expect more and not get it . . . and have her realize I expected more. That would be bad.
Great advice, though.
We all want the best for our children, but sometimes it's better to give them a little space. Here's how to prevent yourself from overparenting.
• Never invest more in an outcome than your child does.
• Allow children of all ages time for free play. It's a natural way to learn regulation, social skills and cognitive skills.
• Be reasonable about what is dangerous and what is not.
Some risk-taking is healthy.
• Don't overreact to every bad grade or negative encounter your child has. Sometimes discomfort is the appropriate
response to a situation—and a stimulus to self-improvement.
• Don't be too willing to slap a disease label on your child at the first sign of a problem; instead, spend some time
helping your child learn how to deal with the problem.
• Peers are important, but young people also need to spend time socializing with adults in order to know how to be adults.
• Modify your expectations about child-raising in light of your child's temperament; the same actions don't work
with everyone.
• Recognize that there are many paths to success. Allow your children latitude—even to take a year off before starting college.
• Don't manipulate the academic system on behalf of your child; it makes kids guilty and doubtful of their own ability.
• Remember that the goal of child-rearing is to raise an independent adult. Encourage your children to think for themselves,
to disagree (respectfully) with authority, even to incur the critical gaze of their peers.
I only have a small issue with the very first bullet. As a parent I think I recognize when I need to put in extra time for the sake of my daughter and for the future. But, I do it transparently. The worst situation would be to expect more and not get it . . . and have her realize I expected more. That would be bad.
Great advice, though.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
If you look up "dirtbag" on Wikipedia . . .
Maplewood man accused of leaving child in car while at strip club
MAPLEWOOD, Minn. (AP) - Prosecutors in Wisconsin were considering charges Friday after a Maplewood man was arrested for allegedly leaving his 18-month-old son in a van outside a strip club for several hours Wednesday night.
The police report filed in the case said that while the 45-year-old man lounged inside the Cajun Club in St. Croix County in Wisconsin, temperatures outside dipped into the low 20s.
A customer entering the hilltop club overlooking Stillwater about 1 a.m. Thursday told staff there was a baby crying in a van outside, said manager Tess Ross. She went to look.
"I was shocked," she said. "I couldn't believe it was a little baby. I felt so bad."
After checking to see that the doors of the van were locked, she called 911.
The club made an announcement over its speaker system seeking the van's owner and the staff approached each customer. Eventually, Ross said a man came forward and she told him to check his van. Deputies were waiting outside.
St. Croix County Sheriff Dennis Hillstead said patrons told deputies the van had been parked outside the club since at least 9:30 p.m. Wednesday, which meant the child was strapped into his car seat for more than three hours.
What a dirtbag. I can't stand when this crap happens. It gets better, though.
Hillstead said the little boy was found wearing socks, a jacket, and sweat pants. He was taken to a hospital in Hudson, Wis., where he was treated for exposure and frostbite. By Friday, the boy was released into his mother's custody.
"He's just lucky it wasn't 10 degrees colder, or that baby could have been in serious trouble," Hillstead said.
The man was arrested on suspicion of neglect of a child, a misdemeanor, and booked into the county jail. The man's wife posted $250 bail early Thursday.
"He had told his wife he was going to the grocery store for milk, but went directly to the Cajun Club," Hillstead said, adding, "When he failed to return home, his wife had called Maplewood police to report him missing."
So he lied to his wife about where he was going. What's really baffling is if he knew he was going to the strip club, why would he take his child? In fact, even if he was just going to the store for a simple milk pick up, why take the child out in to the cold? Finally, why would his wife post bail?!?!
Cathy Halverson, office manager for the St. Croix County Attorney's office, said Friday the case was still under review and a charging decision would be made later.
The couple's neighbor, Donna Gervais of Maplewood, said she baby-sat the couple's older child while the man's wife went to bail him out of jail. Gervais said the couple have lived in the home since last summer, and there have never been any problems.
"They are good people. They're very good with their kids," Gervais said. "I don't see anything wrong going on over there."
She said she was there when he got home early Thursday. "He was very upset and very near to tears," Gervais said. "All he said is he messed up, and he's so sorry for what happened."
Well, I hope he seriously charged. This kind of behavior is inexcusable. The whole story sounds . . . off. That child is VERY lucky, though not very lucky to have such parents.
MAPLEWOOD, Minn. (AP) - Prosecutors in Wisconsin were considering charges Friday after a Maplewood man was arrested for allegedly leaving his 18-month-old son in a van outside a strip club for several hours Wednesday night.
The police report filed in the case said that while the 45-year-old man lounged inside the Cajun Club in St. Croix County in Wisconsin, temperatures outside dipped into the low 20s.
A customer entering the hilltop club overlooking Stillwater about 1 a.m. Thursday told staff there was a baby crying in a van outside, said manager Tess Ross. She went to look.
"I was shocked," she said. "I couldn't believe it was a little baby. I felt so bad."
After checking to see that the doors of the van were locked, she called 911.
The club made an announcement over its speaker system seeking the van's owner and the staff approached each customer. Eventually, Ross said a man came forward and she told him to check his van. Deputies were waiting outside.
St. Croix County Sheriff Dennis Hillstead said patrons told deputies the van had been parked outside the club since at least 9:30 p.m. Wednesday, which meant the child was strapped into his car seat for more than three hours.
What a dirtbag. I can't stand when this crap happens. It gets better, though.
Hillstead said the little boy was found wearing socks, a jacket, and sweat pants. He was taken to a hospital in Hudson, Wis., where he was treated for exposure and frostbite. By Friday, the boy was released into his mother's custody.
"He's just lucky it wasn't 10 degrees colder, or that baby could have been in serious trouble," Hillstead said.
The man was arrested on suspicion of neglect of a child, a misdemeanor, and booked into the county jail. The man's wife posted $250 bail early Thursday.
"He had told his wife he was going to the grocery store for milk, but went directly to the Cajun Club," Hillstead said, adding, "When he failed to return home, his wife had called Maplewood police to report him missing."
So he lied to his wife about where he was going. What's really baffling is if he knew he was going to the strip club, why would he take his child? In fact, even if he was just going to the store for a simple milk pick up, why take the child out in to the cold? Finally, why would his wife post bail?!?!
Cathy Halverson, office manager for the St. Croix County Attorney's office, said Friday the case was still under review and a charging decision would be made later.
The couple's neighbor, Donna Gervais of Maplewood, said she baby-sat the couple's older child while the man's wife went to bail him out of jail. Gervais said the couple have lived in the home since last summer, and there have never been any problems.
"They are good people. They're very good with their kids," Gervais said. "I don't see anything wrong going on over there."
She said she was there when he got home early Thursday. "He was very upset and very near to tears," Gervais said. "All he said is he messed up, and he's so sorry for what happened."
Well, I hope he seriously charged. This kind of behavior is inexcusable. The whole story sounds . . . off. That child is VERY lucky, though not very lucky to have such parents.
Saturday, October 13, 2007
Children . . . evil?
I've read on a few blogs recently, peoples various encounters with children. The bloggers are generally witty with their stories, but the responses they receive are nothing short of shocking to me. That, or people really don't know how to be funny.
For the longest time, I didn't want children. Before I married I made it a real point to let my wife know that. Well, she wanted kids. So, we agreed we would wait and possibly have one.
It wasn't that I didn't like kids. I did. A lot. I was that "kid magnet guy". Always playing with the kids as an adult and having fun. I just knew that a child would put a real cramp in the time I wanted for myself, and for my wife, Jackie. I was selfish. Plain and simple. But, as each of our friends had a child, the defenses wore down. The final brick was the birth of my neice. I became very attached to her . . . and her to me. It was time. After being married 17 years, we had a child.
But, the point of this isn't to tell my story. The point is, I've been on both sides as an adult. I know what it's like not wanting to be bothered with kids and conversely, having one of your own. The bottom line . . . kids are not evil. The are not the devil reincarnate. Mostly, they are not to blame.
Kids make noise. They make noise when having fun and they make noise when they're fighting. Some are louder than others, but they all make noise. Kids making noise never bothered me. That's not to say I understand that there's a point at which it needs to be controlled. I don't know that outside in their own backyard is one of those places in need of control, but I know kids making noise isn't everyone's favorite thing. My wife and I have our daughter fairly well trained. From very young on we made it a point to say "inside voices, please" and made sure that she understood the difference between being at home and being out in public. More than that, we were sure to step in when there was fighting. There was no way, if we were within earshot, that fighting would be tolerated. Much less, fighting that resulted in screaming kids.
That's the bottom line. Clearly there are good kids and . . . spirited kids. But kids know only what their allowed to know and what they can get away with. I know people jest. I know it makes for good stories. But the children are not to blame. It's up to the parents to take the time and make the effort. Kids are not evil. If anything at all, they are the epitome of innocence. I find it appaling people would be so thoughtless and callous as to call children evil and make it sound as though they are the bane of our existence, and need, at best, to be tolerated and, at worst, to be silenced. I can't imagine a world without children. They keep me young. They make me smile and laugh. They love unconditionally. They have no bias. They need less maintenance than most adults. They forgive and forget.
And if the worst part of your day is listening to the noise children make, then I am truly envious.
For the longest time, I didn't want children. Before I married I made it a real point to let my wife know that. Well, she wanted kids. So, we agreed we would wait and possibly have one.
It wasn't that I didn't like kids. I did. A lot. I was that "kid magnet guy". Always playing with the kids as an adult and having fun. I just knew that a child would put a real cramp in the time I wanted for myself, and for my wife, Jackie. I was selfish. Plain and simple. But, as each of our friends had a child, the defenses wore down. The final brick was the birth of my neice. I became very attached to her . . . and her to me. It was time. After being married 17 years, we had a child.
But, the point of this isn't to tell my story. The point is, I've been on both sides as an adult. I know what it's like not wanting to be bothered with kids and conversely, having one of your own. The bottom line . . . kids are not evil. The are not the devil reincarnate. Mostly, they are not to blame.
Kids make noise. They make noise when having fun and they make noise when they're fighting. Some are louder than others, but they all make noise. Kids making noise never bothered me. That's not to say I understand that there's a point at which it needs to be controlled. I don't know that outside in their own backyard is one of those places in need of control, but I know kids making noise isn't everyone's favorite thing. My wife and I have our daughter fairly well trained. From very young on we made it a point to say "inside voices, please" and made sure that she understood the difference between being at home and being out in public. More than that, we were sure to step in when there was fighting. There was no way, if we were within earshot, that fighting would be tolerated. Much less, fighting that resulted in screaming kids.
That's the bottom line. Clearly there are good kids and . . . spirited kids. But kids know only what their allowed to know and what they can get away with. I know people jest. I know it makes for good stories. But the children are not to blame. It's up to the parents to take the time and make the effort. Kids are not evil. If anything at all, they are the epitome of innocence. I find it appaling people would be so thoughtless and callous as to call children evil and make it sound as though they are the bane of our existence, and need, at best, to be tolerated and, at worst, to be silenced. I can't imagine a world without children. They keep me young. They make me smile and laugh. They love unconditionally. They have no bias. They need less maintenance than most adults. They forgive and forget.
And if the worst part of your day is listening to the noise children make, then I am truly envious.
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